I attended the 6th annual TSOQ Panty Party last night. What originally started as a birthday party for Angela and Valentina, the owners of one of Toronto’s most fashionable boutiques, and my personal fashion parents, has turned into the best party of the year. The catch? You have to wear lingerie, and (sorry boys) it’s a girls only event.
For some, the dress code might sound intimidating, but the beauty of this entire event, is that it is the most female empowering party I have ever been to, and everywhere you turn and look, women are celebrating themselves and each other, in outfits that make them feel sexy and strong, not for the validation of others, but for themselves. It’s easy to become comfortable in whatever attire you’ve chosen for your outfit when there are only positive vibes and love being spread amongst guests, and everyone is there as an equal. Even though it was my 4th time attending, I still fell in love with the atmosphere all over again, feeling inspired by the overwhelmingly magnetic female energy that was buzzing through the venue until last call.
This year, I was once again the tallest in the room, sporting a solid 5″ heel with my outfit. I’m used to this being the case, but I often refrain from wearing heels on the regular (even though I LOVE them), because I just get exhausted responding to the comments about my height. Especially the age-old remarks from strange men like “ohh I could climb you like a tree!” But wearing heels in a group of supportive and positive women is a completely different story. Not once during the night did the comments about my height exhaust me or make me uncomfortable. Instead of hearing “wow you’re tall” in a derogatory manner, comments were more along the lines of “you’re a beautiful amazon,” oozing with warmth and admiration. Instead of feeling like a weirdo for being a giant, I felt like a goddess amongst fellow goddesses. I think that’s what this event does. It makes every woman feel like the goddess she is, and THAT is a powerful feeling.
Sexy used to be directly related to sex for me. If you were sexy, you had sex appeal, and men would want to have sex with you. That used to be my end goal when I was young — to be sexy enough so that guys would “want” me. That’s what society taught me to believe. Now, sexy to me means doing the things that make me want to be me. Sexy has nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with vulnerability, inner strength and living your values.
Thank you TSOQ for providing a beautiful and safe space where it’s okay for women to embrace their own versions of sexy. And for building a community that supports each other for doing so.
Also. HUGE shoutout to my personal trainer, Dayne. My fitness journey has been MUCH stronger since he’s stepped in and I think it shows 🙂
The Store On Queen — http://www.thestoreonqueen.com
Lingerie — Kimmy Bra & Thong set from Honey Birdette
Shrug jacket — Corporate Shrug by Artifice Clothing
Hat — Black Gypsy
Personalized Necklace — Soufeel Jewelry (use code Stefanie15 when shopping for a 15% discount)
Rhinestone Neckleace — Chic Wishlist
Boots — Pleaser (ordered off of Amazon)