When you live where winters are cold, the only good thing about February is Valentine’s Day. I’ve never really done much for Valentine’s day nor have I expected anything, but my boyfriend and I have used it as an excuse to go on a little staycation a few times here in the city, and I’ve also been guilty of using it to justify the purchase of some pretty intimates. Even if we don’t have plans, wearing a something spicy under my clothes is like a little Valentine to myself.
So far this year, we’ve not made plans but I’m already throwing together a few backup outfit ideas.. you know.. just in case. I recently had the pleasure of shooting with a local designer who makes leather harnesses for her brand, DreamBelts. I already knew I loved harnesses and leather, her accessories are kind of perfect to add to a Valentine’s outfit!
While harnesses have that very obvious element of kink, they can so easily be incorporated into fashion no matter your personal style, and do NOT have to be left to only bedroom fashion. Personally, wearing leather and harnesses make me feel powerful and sexy, and I just can’t get enough, so I figured I’d share how I styled a few pieces for our most recent shoot.
I just spent the entire last weekend curled up in a blanket on the couch with my boyfriend, a whole slew of trash tv, and UberEats orders on queue. It’s been a long time since I’ve been properly sick to the point where I’ve had to skip work and stay in bed for days on end, and I’ve gotta say, I really didn’t miss it. I pride myself in being relatively healthy and I feel like my immune system has had a pretty good track record as a result. Until now lol.. It’s been a week since it started and while I feel mostly human today, this nagging chest cough (I know you all know what I’m talking about), feels as though it’s never going to go away. Just when I was feeling motivation and routine settling back in, this wrench in my side.. errr.. chest.. really flip turned everything upside down and is making me take a few extra days of downtime.
It seems right as I caught this awful cold, the entire city simultaneously went into a mild panic when they heard about the first case of the coronavirus on Canadian soil. Talk about feeling self conscious about having to cough in public! Don’t worry, I’m very aware of directing any oncoming coughs into my arm/shoulder or into my scarf when I’m bundled up outside, but it’s hard to ignore the nervous shift or glances from strangers not so secretly paranoid that any and everyone with so much as a sniffle might be a carrier of this epidemic.
My diet of vitamin C, soup, Buckley’s and Ricola cough drops seems to be doing the trick though, and I can safely say I’ve mostly survived the common cold. Though I still may not have been the most productive this week and have avoided using my productivity journal knowing that I haven’t been in a state to tackle any actual projects, I may or may not have done a bit of damage on the online shopping front in the height of my sick haze. Spoiler alert: expect a “Cozy Clothes for Tall Babes” haul coming soon, here and on my YouTube channel. I figured it would be the perfect theme for my recovery.
Anyways, I think it’s time to brew up another tea. The effects of my cough drop are wearing off and I’m not about to let this tickle in my chest win. Until next week,
In a perfect world, I’d have a bottomless closet with outfit options ready to style every week, with content to post here and across all my socials on the regular.
To be honest, I’m actually sitting on a few outfits I’ve yet to share, but haven’t had the opportunity to style/shoot them yet. After kicking the year off with such well shot outfits and 3 consecutive weeks of content, I don’t want to settle for anything of lower quality, and somehow, self shot photos just don’t quite compare. Am I being too picky? That, and the fact that the weather is next to impossible to comfortably shoot in (today feels like -10 degrees celsius, so the thought of trying to shoot an outfit outside makes me shiver!), and my indoor space isn’t exactly ideal or spacious enough to be doing it inside.
Going into this week I was already a little down on myself for my lack of material, but where I would have previously let that spiral into a feeling of defeat and like I’ve failed when I started the year out so strong, I reminded myself that it’s okay. I want to share and create content because I LIKE to, and at no point should it become something that creates stress or feelings of self-doubt or failure.
My productivity journal has remained blank this week though I’ve made a few mental notes for what I want to accomplish, I haven’t been as diligent at writing things down. Probably partially because I hit a bit of a wall where I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to accomplish. There was a quote in my journal last week though, that kinda resonates with me this week and is keeping me feeling positive moving into next. “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur Ashe. I feel like that’s exactly what I’m doing. And that is enough.
This week I finally started using the productivity journal that my boyfriend gave me for Christmas. With so many goals for the year and so many different projects on the go, the whole idea of this journal is to prioritize tasks and get them done in an efficient manner. I’m only going into day 3, but just the act of writing out my to do list is already something I can see will be super beneficial. I’ve also added a large desk calendar so that I can visualize my schedule and projects in hopes it keeps me on top of everything as the year continues. I gave myself a head start by photographing a few outfits during the holidays (the last of which I’m sharing todayyy), so the real test is going to be how I manage my time moving forward because at the moment, I don’t have any outfits for next week.. to be honest, it feels a bit daunting. The success of my regular posts and the growth of my blog as a whole the way I imagine it will be directly correlated to how well this journal works for me soo…. will report back in a few weeks!
As for this week’s outfit, I’m actually pretty pleased that the weather still matches what I shot a few weeks ago. I RARELY wear skirts or dresses casually and am far less inclined to do so when I’m cold, but I love the look of skirts styled with tights for winter (I’m wearing an Ultra Stretch Opaque tight by Secret Legwear and the fit is PERFECT!).
My boyfriend and I started watching a new reality series, The Circle, on Netflix this week. It kinda has this Big Brother-esque feel to it, except the contestants don’t meet in person, they only meet and interact via their in game app, The Circle, similar to a Facebook style platform. They befriend each other, flirt, converse, strategize, all through chat messages, and the only things that anyone knows about them comes from what they share on their profiles or through conversations.
Watching the way the contestants started to interpret their opponents’ photos, profiles, and words, making assumptions before actually knowing anything real about them, made me start to wonder how people perceive me based off of what I share. While it’s difficult to really look at myself objectively, I’d like to think that I try make sure my sense of self is translated through every platform I share on in a way that’s authentic and honest.. and fashionable when I can lol *insert outfit photos here*
….there are so many thoughts I was going to dive into when I really started thinking about this show, but none of them are complete, and would also lead to a much much longer read that probably wouldn’t have any real conclusion. I thought of one paragraph about adding “authenticity” to my 2020 vision board.. another about the contestants on the show who are catfish and how I feel about that. That probably would have led to a quick “OMG Catfish is coming out with a new season” comment followed by a brief dive into my own experiences with fake people on the internet (click HERE for some of that tea!!)… and before you know it you don’t really know what this post was about in the first place.
So for now I’ll just leave with food for thought: What does your online presence say about you, and are you okay with that?
I feel like throughout the last few years, it’s almost as if I’ve been waiting for something to happen. Like I’d get a clear vision for a career path I’d want to take, or like I’d get some sort of “break” doing any one of the million things I’ve dipped my toes in, indicating where I should put more time and efforts. Only now, am I realizing how passively I’ve been spending my time.
Playing this weird waiting game with myself has definitely stunted my drive. I’ve been focusing on what hasn’t been happening, and stopped just DOING a lot of what I love, which is not something I plan to carry with me into 2020. New year. New decade. New chapter. I remember when I started this blog, all I wanted was to learn more about tall clothing options, and share what I knew and found, and spend time focusing on one of my loves, FASHION. I had no particular destination, I just wanted to DO something, with something I loved, and this, I’ve realized, is exactly the direction I need to move.
SO.. Where does that bring me? I won’t say I’ve got a completely clear (dare I say.. 20/20) vision on where I’m going, but I do know which direction I’m moving in. My goal is to create. Something. Anything. Because I love to and because I want to. I’ve always loved the idea of making a physical vision board as a way to visualize what I want to manifest in the coming months/years, but have never actually done it. I think I’ve also been afraid to put out big ideas out and then fall short and not reach goals I’ve set. FEAR AND SELF DOUBT HAVE NO PLACE HERE MOVING FORWARD, so I want to share what my 2020 vision board would look like (I don’t have any old magazines lying around, or enough ink in my printer.. so a literary vision board will have to do for now lol).
On my vision board:
A few new photos from my recent fashion shoots – I’ve already shot 3 new outfits to share (first one for this post) and would include a few shots from there as inspiration to continue styling, and continue creating and building the momentum that I had let die down.
Beaches/airplanes/luggage – I want to travel more. At least 4 destinations this year. And I want to be proactive and take advantage of creating content while I’m traveling and making opportunities out of everywhere I visit.
“DEBT FREE” in all capitals – In a few months, I will be finished paying off my school loans, and plan to shift my focus to eliminating my credit card balance by the end of the year.
A clock/watch – I want to learn how to prioritize and be wiser about how I’m budgeting my time so that I can be the most productive I can be (regularly using my new productivity journal from my boyfriend).
“VOLUNTEER” in all capitals – Not only do I want to be smarter about my time, but I also want to give my time to others. I think I’d like to look into volunteering at the children’s hospital so I need to sit down and find all the information I need.
A martini glass with a Mexican flag – my boyfriend and I have a dream to retire one day and open a little bar on a beach somewhere.. We need to create a more concrete plan so that this dream starts to feel more real.
Alloy, Missguided, ASOS, LongTallSally – brands that I love and would love to create more content for/with. I’d also love to explore other tall brands!!
YouTube logo – along with creating regular blog content, I have goals to keep a regular YouTube upload schedule as well. Fashion content, music covers, lifestyle vlogs, etc.
Barbells – finding my fitness routine again, and making moves towards a continuously healthier lifestyle.
[insert sports brand here] – this one is big, but with the barbell photo, I’d LOVE to find a sports apparel brand that not only aligns with my fitness goals, but also my fashion goals, and MAYBE work on some sort of partnership.
an engagement ring – *cough*ADAM*cough* lol……
I’m sure that as the year progresses, this list is going to change and grow and perhaps at some point I’ll be able to make a physical version so that, not only are the words now out in the universe, the visual reminder will constantly be looking back at me, reminding me to always move forward. But for now, this is where I’m starting, and while it looks like I’ve got a lot of work cut out for me, it’s the kind that I enjoy and I’m looking forward to creating and sharing more. Starting with these:
I woke up this morning, and just about every other post across my social feeds was all ‘Back to School’ focused. This time of year is always like another New Years. The end of one chapter, the beginning of the next. The end of summer, the beginning of fall. As a kid, it’s a new grade, new teacher, new lessons, sometimes new friends. As a parent, potentially an emptier house with more free time for projects or work. My boyfriend’s schedule suddenly gets filled with work as a new basketball season begins. For me… well I’m not really sure what back to school means for me this year.
I’ve been out of school now for… 9 years (wrting that kinda hurt my soul a little…..). How it’s been 9 years, I have no idea. I graduated university with such high hopes and ambitions. No real direction, but so much potential for what life was going to bring me. I remember going home that summer, determined to work the summer away so I could move myself to the big city. Even though I wasn’t entirely sure what to do with my business degree, I knew I wanted to be where there was the most potential. Toronto kinda sucked me in, and I’ve basically been a city girl ever since.
It wasn’t until this past summer that I realized how much I missed that summer vacation vibe. That feeling of taking a break and fully embracing summer like I did when I was a kid. After living a lifestyle that no longer left room for an official summer break, I’d kind of forgotten how it felt.
This year, my boyfriend and I made a point to take a week at the end of July, and get out of the city. Take a break from the hustle and bustle. Take a break from the continuous demands of living in a city that never seems to stop, and just… stop. I’m so thankful that after years being invited, my aunt’s invitation to her partner’s family cottage was still open, and that at the end of July, she had room for two. We rented a car, packed up, and left for the cottage down by Lake Erie for 5 days. After that we drove a few hours and spent a day out in Tobermory (I had never been), and then finished our week off on Wasaga beach before heading home.
There are so many beautiful details about our trip that made everything perfect, but the best part about that week, was how it made me feel. I LOVE living in the city, but taking a week off, close to where I grew up, seeing family on the regular, forgetting about my makeup bag, barely even putting on shoes…It’s probably the happiest I’ve felt in years. An entire week without worries, without a schedule, and the only thing on my to-do list was spending time with people I love. I had a moment while we were driving home, reflecting on how our week had been, that I realized I hadn’t enjoyed a summer like this since I was a kid. Honestly, that realization made me.. and still makes me, emotional.
So I guess ‘Back to School’ is a bit of a reflection time for me. Not necessarily a new beginning, or any big changes. But time to be thankful for time spent, and perhaps more aware of how time is passing. And as I’m writing this, also realizing that it’s about time I get ready to go back to work.. but nothing new there. The food service industry doesn’t really get a break.. until I make it rich and famous…
….this blurb has been brought to you by, The Tallest Mermaid: blogging sporadically since Feb 2016, and only really NOW, tapping into some real feelings.
I was recently contacted by Sumissura about trying out their service for a custom tailored outfit. If you’re unfamiliar with Sumissura, they’re a Swiss-based brand of tailor-made clothing for women whose goal is to give all women the opportunity to access the world and enjoy the comfort of tailor-made clothing at an affordable price.
I didn’t know how the whole process worked until I checked out their website, but had been following them already on instagram, so I knew they had some gorgeous styles to offer. I was given the option to choose a suit and a shirt, so I quickly got to work customizing my order.
Sumissura offers many pre-designed suits, tuxedos, jackets, dresses, etc., but their most exciting feature is to design your own. Once I saw the extensive selection of fabrics, I knew EXACTLY what I would hope to have made. My inspiration was drawn directly from Cate Blanchett’s character in Ocean’s 8. I fell in love with her entire wardrobe throughout the movie, most specifically, her green velvet pant suit.
The customization process includes everything from fabric to lapel size, and pocket styles to the fit of the pants. I think I successfully recreated the suit I was envisioning, within Sumissura’s offerings. I then used their super easy to follow instructional video to import all of my measurements so that not only was my suit made to my style preferences, but also specifically for MY body (every tall girl’s dreams).
My package arrived safe and sound, exactly two weeks after I placed my order, but I waited until the following Saturday (5 days later) to try it on so I could film the experience (watch my entire Sumissura process HERE). They DO have a perfect fit guarantee, so if things aren’t fitting properly they’ll remake it or pay for alterations as long as you contact support within 7 days of receiving the order.
Long story short, I’M IN LOVE WITH MY SUIT!!! Everything fits like a glove. The quality is unreal. It looks ON POINT! When I’m wearing it, I feel like a boss bitch ready take whatever life wants to throw my way (actually though… don’t mess with me while I’m wearing it!).
I think it’s important to note that because I’m used to a stretch pant that moves with me, the tailor fit pant without stretch is a bit of an adjustment. The length of the pant is JUST at the ankle when I’m standing because I didn’t want them to bunch at the bottom, so if I sit it rides up the leg (the way a men’s pant would). The fit around my waist and ankle is also a touch snug, BUT because I gave them my measurements I probably could have added an extra 1/4 inch to allow for a bit of movement. Not being an experienced seamstress, I didn’t really think that one through. I just have to make sure my booty/thigh gains aren’t too significant in the next month or so, because I plan on wearing this one to my friend’s wedding!
The ONLY other thing worth raising a potential flag to, is the length from waist to crotch. I don’t think there was an option to add a measurement for this area, and for us tall girls, this could raise a concern. Adding extra length to a pant for a tall girl often means adding length everywhere and not just in the leg. My pair of pants turned out pretty perfectly, but for anyone who has a long hip/waist, you MAY find it a little snug.
As for the blouse, I am in love with it. The fit is perfect. The material is SO ridiculously soft and I don’t think I’ve ever had a blouse that fits so nicely. I often find if I want it to fit my boobs, there’s no shape in the waist, and then if i want it to fit my waist, I’ll risk popping a button. I don’t have any of those concerns with this one and it looks so sharp!
For a custom tailored outfit, what Sumissura offers their customers is amazing! I’ve never ordered anything custom tailored before, and this experience was so easy, efficient and successful that I’ll definitely be making another order! I’ve already been raving about it to my girlfriends lol.. Every woman needs a good power suit. Even if I had any issues with my order, I know that because the process was so smooth, getting it fixed or altered would be just as hassle-free.
I want to give a HUGE thank you to Eugenie at Sumissura for setting me up with this experience. Don’t be surprised if you find me in a suit at every occasion for the rest of forever. ❤
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My holiday season was extremely refreshing. I kicked off December by committing to Vlogmas on my YouTube channel (watch HERE), ended up going on a last minute trip to Miami for a week, and then spent two days with Adam’s family (Christmas Day and Boxing Day), and a few days later, two days with my own family.
The time with family and the time with Adam was everything I needed to close out 2018 and begin a new year feeling recharged. I’m not one to sit down and make resolutions, but we’re just over a week into the new year now, and I feel like I have an energy to actually DO something, that I haven’t really felt in awhile.
I don’t know where along the line I lost inspiration, but last year was a pretty uninspiring one overall. Perhaps it was the impending Dirty 30’s, or just an overall lack of direction, but I just didn’t know where I was going, or what I wanted to do. Now, I haven’t had some grand epiphany with an exact idea of what to do, and to be honest I’m still not sure I have much direction either, but the desire to get back to shooting feels exciting. I have outfits I need to shoot (which you’ll be seeing here soon), and people I want to shoot with, and generally, things I want to DO!
I think part of the fire under my feet was stoked when I received a few new items from Rhonda Lynette! I included my first reactions in my Vlog that day and then made use of my sister and her new camera lens to shoot some photos when I went home for Christmas.
The passion, love and care that goes into each garment (which are, by the way, hand sewn by Rhonda herself!!!), reminded me of the passion, love and care I have when it comes to sharing tall fashion with other tall babes… which brings me to my first non-resolution. Time to create more. Time to shoot more. Time to play more music. Anything that helps me express myself. Time to do more of that.
Another one of my non-resolutions is actually something that I did a little bit of last year. I want to travel more. Last year I had a weekend in New York, a hair show in Vegas followed by a few days in LA, and I closed the year with that week in Miami. Getting out of the city, and getting a taste of another, helps me reset and overall just reminds me how much living there is to do outside of the bubble we live in here in Toronto. I don’t have any huge trips planned yet, but I definitely would love a little summer getaway, a birthday getaway in October, and perhaps a New Years getaway to celebrate another anniversary with my boyfriend (we just celebrated 5 years)… as a starting point..
The last non-resolution I have is more of a loose goal. Looking at where I am going into 2019, I want to be in a much more financially secure position, or at least have a more solid plan of how to get there when it comes time to ring in 2020. I’m definitely at an age that has me thinking of a family and what that would look like, so by the end of the year I’d like to confidently say that I’d be ready or at least have some sort of plan for how I would make that adventure work when the time comes.
My next task for myself (aside from creating another YouTube video for next week), is to create a little mood/vision board. I want to be able to visualize these things every day so that I don’t lose track of where I’m headed, while also reminding myself to stay open and welcome to the possibility that things could twist and turn and change along the way. As long as I’ve got my head up, the only direction I plan on moving this year is forward. Progression and growth is the only option for me.
I attended the 6th annual TSOQ Panty Party last night. What originally started as a birthday party for Angela and Valentina, the owners of one of Toronto’s most fashionable boutiques, and my personal fashion parents, has turned into the best party of the year. The catch? You have to wear lingerie, and (sorry boys) it’s a girls only event.
For some, the dress code might sound intimidating, but the beauty of this entire event, is that it is the most female empowering party I have ever been to, and everywhere you turn and look, women are celebrating themselves and each other, in outfits that make them feel sexy and strong, not for the validation of others, but for themselves. It’s easy to become comfortable in whatever attire you’ve chosen for your outfit when there are only positive vibes and love being spread amongst guests, and everyone is there as an equal. Even though it was my 4th time attending, I still fell in love with the atmosphere all over again, feeling inspired by the overwhelmingly magnetic female energy that was buzzing through the venue until last call.
This year, I was once again the tallest in the room, sporting a solid 5″ heel with my outfit. I’m used to this being the case, but I often refrain from wearing heels on the regular (even though I LOVE them), because I just get exhausted responding to the comments about my height. Especially the age-old remarks from strange men like “ohh I could climb you like a tree!” But wearing heels in a group of supportive and positive women is a completely different story. Not once during the night did the comments about my height exhaust me or make me uncomfortable. Instead of hearing “wow you’re tall” in a derogatory manner, comments were more along the lines of “you’re a beautiful amazon,” oozing with warmth and admiration. Instead of feeling like a weirdo for being a giant, I felt like a goddess amongst fellow goddesses. I think that’s what this event does. It makes every woman feel like the goddess she is, and THAT is a powerful feeling.
One of my friends, Laura, shared a quote on her insta story directly after the party and I loooved the message. (original post by @onourmoon HERE)
Sexy used to be directly related to sex for me. If you were sexy, you had sex appeal, and men would want to have sex with you. That used to be my end goal when I was young — to be sexy enough so that guys would “want” me. That’s what society taught me to believe. Now, sexy to me means doing the things that make me want to be me. Sexy has nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with vulnerability, inner strength and living your values.
Thank you TSOQ for providing a beautiful and safe space where it’s okay for women to embrace their own versions of sexy. And for building a community that supports each other for doing so.